What Does A Divorce Coach Do and Why Do I Need One?

Just hearing the word divorce may evoke many thoughts and feelings such as; trouble; fighting; court; economic strain; upheaval and injustice. The list can go on and on. Some divorce cases proceed smoothly without contention and animosity, however, other cases can become very hostile with numerous disputes and discord. In either case, a Divorce Coach can help clients navigate the process, thus reducing stress and anxiety.

The concept/phenomenon of Life or Career Coaching is not new, but in the field of Divorce it is a relatively novel service being offered. Divorce Coaching is part of the Collaborative Law initiative. which came to Illinois in about 2002. Whenever I tell someone I am a Divorce Coach, I receive puzzled looks and the common misconception is that I encourage people to get divorced. This is hardly the case. For those who have never heard of a "Divorce Coach", allow me to educate you about this valuable professional service.

First of all, I will explain what coaching is not. Coaching is not clinical in nature as therapy or counseling. It is not based on a medical diagnosis and no diagnosis is made. There is no assumption that a mental health problem exists and a coach does not delve into the past to look for root causes of problematic issues. A Divorce Coach neither offers legal advice nor serves as a substitute for your attorney.

Attorneys are retained to represent the best interest of their clients and advocate for their clients in court. Clients depend on their attorneys, as experts, to investigate the financial issues, gather evidence and attempt to settle the business part of the divorce. It can be very difficult for clients to distinguish business matters from the emotional issues of divorce. A Divorce Coach can serve as a personal mentor, throughout the process, and assist clients in separating the emotional from the business. There are numerous other benefits for clients who work with a Divorce Coach.

My coaching practice is designed to assist clients with goal achievement, decision making and life transitions. It is based on an educational model that provides an opportunity for clients to learn. The focus is on the present situation (the divorce) and learning how to approach and manage the challenges and decisions that divorce presents. Divorce is a life altering change. Having an awareness of the factors necessary for change and the various stages of change, makes it easier for clients to remain calm and patient.

Coaching offers structure and holds clients responsible for assuming a pro-active role. A Coach may recommend material for clients to work on and refer to for future use. Clients can benefit by working with a coach in setting realistic expectations for the process and receiving education about the options available for divorce. Being informed and prepared helps clients to make important decisions with confidence. Guiding clients in clarifying their thoughts, needs and concerns, in order to communicate more effectively, is another important function of the Coach. Clear, purposeful and rational

communication helps to ease tension and foster understanding between spouses, as well as parents and children. Additionally, clearly and precisely conveying key facts and asking pertinent questions aids clients to communicate effectively with their attorney. It is important to proceed through divorce in manageable steps and prioritize the tasks that need to be completed during the divorce. A Divorce Coach guides you in this process.

In order to achieve the goal of transitioning through divorce with peace, confidence and direction, the Divorce Coach will encourage clients to identify a support system that will help see them through the difficult times. All too often individuals are bombarded with "advice" from friends, family and neighbors, which can be overwhelming, confusing and dangerous!

Clients need to be motivated and realize their personal strengths in order to overcome obstacles that might be encountered during the process. A Divorce Coach can provide the necessary support, motivation and encouragement for clients to go through the process, grow through the process and become empowered to plan for a positive future.

Linda A. Lucatorto, M.Ed, CPC
Divorce Coach, Mediator and Public Speaker
Two Mid America Plaza, Suite 800
Oakbrook Terrace, Illinois
Personal Coaching for Transitions
630-887-0374 or coachserve@aol.com

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About The Law Firm of Debra J. Braselton, P.C.
Debra Braselton is an experienced adoption, divorce, and collaborative law attorney practicing in Chicago, Oak Brook, Naperville, and other nearby areas in Illinois. Her caring approach and vast experience in practice can bring invaluable knowledge to your adoption, divorce, or collaborative law case. If you are in need of an experienced and professional law firm practicing divorce law, adoption law, family law, or collaborative law in Illinois, call The Law Firm of Debra J. Braselton, P.C. today.

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The Law Firm of Debra J. Braselton, P.C.
One Oakbrook Terrace, Suite 418
Oakbrook Terrace, IL 60181
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